Silly Alfred

Friday, July 11, 2008

"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
--Alfred Lord Tennyson



I'm not sure how I feel about this quote. I agree, yet disagree at the same time. Also I feel a bit unable to fully comprehend this quote because I can't say that I have truly been in love with another human being. But I'll share my opinions anyhow.

On the one hand, from what experience I know from living so far is that love is great. Loving family and friends of course, and there is always the attraction towards the opposite sex. To know someone genuinely cares about you and what your doing is a good feeling. Everyone wants to be loved. Duh. There's the "to have loved" part. Now the lost part. Let's just take a relationship for instance. You build up this relationship with them for so long and they become a significant part of your life, then you lose them. They are no longer a part of your life, and that piece of you is gone. So it's almost like you have this hole in your life that they filled, and now its just hollow. While this hole can gradually be filled up over time, it's definitely not instant. Not if it really was "love" anyways. So. You have this awesome thing, and then its gone, and you are left with the reminder of how good that thing was. Is the love worth the loss?

Falling in love with "the right guy" seems to just be an accepted task on our life checklist. I don't know many people who try to decide if they should fall in love and/or get married. Most people want to, except for the nuns and priests of course. So what about those priests and nuns, maybe I should interview them. I wonder if they feel like they are missing out on a part of life because they are not supposed to marry. I bet they would say no though, because they probably all felt called to do what they are doing, which would be following God, which is great. So maybe I shouldn't ask them.

I kind of feel like the only people we could really ask that question is Adam and Eve. They were the first to experience the ULTIMATE love, God's. They also, had it rightfully lost it. They did not lose God's love however, they just disobeyed God's one rule and were removed from the garden. Their actions also had effects for the rest of the world for a very, very, very long time. I think I'll ask them when that day comes.

Is there a way that you could not be hurt after losing the love? What if it ended on good terms...is that even possible?!


let that sink in :]